That’s because it’s unlikely that you’re going to get the kind of relationship you want unless you can communicate with men about the kind of relationship that you want.
But in your world, one in which you would like to find a loving partner, talking about looking for love shouldn’t be taboo. In the meat-market world of dating apps that is dominated by people who see romance as an exercise in volume, it may be. Why are you concerned about scaring men who aren’t looking for more than hookups? That’s mostly a rhetorical question: everyone knows that the worst thing a single person can do is express a desire for more commitment than the time that it takes a partner to reach orgasm. How do I start a conversation with a gay guy online that makes it clear that I don’t do hookups, but without scaring them? Any advice ? But I don’t want casual sex! I want a boyfriend, but gay guys online either want sex or are interested in physical appearances only. And even though I especially write in my profile that I’m looking for love, I still get dick pics. The thing is, Grindr, Hornet, Tinder etc always end with the same result: guys just wanna have fun – if you know what I mean. So it’s the first time that I am really single.Īfter having met all the gay people my friends could introduce me to (it didn’t work out), I’ve turned to online dating.
My last one lasted three years, as did the one before. It’s been a year and a half since my last relationship.